February 1, 2014
By Tina Chandler
Failure does not define you. Aftermath does.
Victory is often cleverly disguised as defeat.
You have the power to overcome any adversity you face.
These are phrases that have bumped around in my head for a while. There are others, believe me! But, for some reason, these are front and center. They are probably meaningless to you, but I will try to explain them from my perspective.
Failure – has always meant that "I" failed instead of the situation just not being the right one at the right time. It is certainly true that "I" fail at things that I don’t understand, when I get in a hurry, when I don’t pay attention, and so on and so on. But, that’s not what I am talking about. I mean those times when you feel like everything you do was right or expected, that you know the process, understand the instructions, and things still don’t work out. That is a different kind of failure. Those moments make you question what you know. At least it’s that way for me. Sometimes, you feel like other people are out to get you, that they have sabotaged you in some way. Paranoia? Yes, sometimes, but other times, it’s spot on!
Assess each situation on its own merits. You may be exactly right about the cause of the failure or you could be dead wrong! Take the lesson and apply it forward. Learn, grow and improve. Grow in the aftermath. You may just find out that even though you failed this time, you learned and can apply the lesson clearer next time.