December 14, 2013
By Tina Chandler
What will people remember about you?
That question has sometimes stopped me in my tracks. Other times, I’ve ignored it altogether.
Reality is you can’t control people’s perception, what they remember when you’re gone, or even what they think in the here and now.
You CAN control what you do and say. Your actions and words can make or break a situation, a relationship, a project at work. You can influence others – good or bad – with the way you handle adversity or triumph. You CAN choose to do the end-zone dance or simply smile. You CAN show grace in times of trouble or grief.
Give some thought to not only your words but the way you use them. As for me, this is one of the most difficult things to remember and DO. My mouth certainly speaks without engaging my brain! Sometimes, I even shock myself. I look back on a conversation or how I handled something and I am appalled. I can’t really believe I behaved that way! But, I did. I spoke with poison dripping from my tongue. I behaved, or rather misbehaved, with a giant chip on my shoulder.
Gossip, jealousy, spite – those are the root of most of my outbursts. To those I’ve wronged, please forgive me. Please find a way to accept me in all my flawed humanness and to look past my selfish attitudes. I don’t want you to remember me that way. I want you to see an attitude of grace that can only come when I surrender my mouth to the will of God!
Colossians 4:6 King James Version (KJV)
Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.